No matter how you’re feeling now, divorce can be your doorway to a wonderful new life!
During the 10-Week Rebuilding Program, you’ll learn how to let go, discover your potential and bring joy and happiness back into your life.
The 10-Week Rebuilding series has been refined over 40 years to help you move forward with strength, clarity and wisdom.
Classes begin every five weeks via Zoom, but why not preview the first class for FREE? All you have to lose is the sadness, fear and codependency that’s holding you back.
The best way to move forward is by understanding where you are now. Complete the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale to assess how you’re adjusting to the end of your relationship.
I also offer a 20-minute complimentary phone consultation to help interpret your results.
Nick and Tara have many years of experience supporting individuals, couples and groups as they work through divorce and emerge stronger than ever.
They’re here to help you rebuild your self-esteem, regain your confidence and restore your self-reliance.
Designed to help you heal and rediscover joy, love and purpose, this transformative journey will show you how to:
Transition from being powerless to empowered
Disentangle from your ex-spouse and stop being codependent
Identify destructive and constructive behaviors to create healthier relationships
Effectively relate and express your grief and anger
Build self-esteem and start loving yourself
Create emotional intimacy with yourself and others
Forgive others and yourself
Nick told me that we all go through the ending alone and that in order to heal and grow we cannot get through by ourselves. The huge amount of support I gained from the book, the teaching, the session with Nick and from my fellow students was amazing.
- Melanie N.
1777 South Harrison Suite 1200
Denver, CO 80210
“They say marriage takes a lot of work, and it does, work that can be really rewarding. But divorce takes even more work, especially when there are kids involved.”
Michele Zipp – Huffington Post
Here’s what women wished they would have been told:
It’s nothing at all like when your husband was away on business and it was nice to have the bed to yourself. That gets old. You get lonely.
He’s not going to be there. Ever. Never again in the way that he was. He’s gone. For good.
Don’t rush things unless you are in an abusive situation.
You may want to hide when you are first going through divorce. You won’t want to talk about it with anyone.
You will have to remind yourself that you are not a failure. That the relationship simply ran its course, it had an expiration date.
You may never feel truly sure you made the right decision particularly if you have children together.
There is going to be an in-law situation and you won’t know how to carry on your relationship with them.
When your kids are sick, you are the only one home to care for them and he’s not there to ask him for help.
When you are sick, he is no longer there to care for you.
You will miss his cooking, even if he isn’t a good cook, but simply because there was someone else there to make meals and it isn’t all on you. And if he was a good cook, it’s going to be even harder.
You still may call him by the pet name you had for him and it slips out when discussing a matter and it hangs there in the air and hurts.
If you thought talking about money with your husband was hard, try talking about money with your ex-husband.
There will be no more “stay here with the kids for an hour so I can run out to do errands.”
It may feel natural to reach out to hold onto his arm when you go out for coffee to discuss the kids, but you aren’t supposed to hold onto his arm anymore.
You will miss your wedding ring … feeling it there on your finger and what it represented.
Your wedding album is like a ghost.
You won’t know what to do with your wedding dress.
If you knew what you knew now, you wouldn’t have spent all that money on that wedding dress. Instead you should have banked it to save for couples’ therapy.
You might have to politely ask your parents to take down your wedding photo they still have hanging on the wall in the living room because it hurts too much to see it.
It’s not easy. Not even if you are the one who wanted a divorce.
You’ll wonder if he’s dating someone new and if he’s thinking she’s better than you.
When he gets serious with another woman, dealing with that woman being around your children is going to be harder than you could ever imagine.
After all the hurt subsides, you remember all the good things and sort of forget the bad and the hurt starts again but in a different way.
What if … there will be lots of these.
You will look at your kids, that are his kids too, and wonder how in the world are you going to be able to make it through all these holidays for the rest of your lives and still figure out how to be a family that is no longer living together.
You may notice it feels weird to still have the gifts he’s given to you over the years even if it’s something as mundane as a toaster. And you may start having nostalgia about the toaster.
You might fondle the silverware gifted to you at your bridal shower and feel bad that all your friends and family gave you all these wonderful gifts for a marriage that didn’t last.
You may worry some of your friends might be thinking about those gifts they gifted you.
You may lose some friends.
Some of your family may not understand why you are getting divorced and that can be very challenging to deal with on top of dealing with divorce itself.
There will be a bit of pain when you refer to him as “Daddy” to your kids, but that’s his name and how he’s addressed, so you must deal.
You are going to want to confide in your ex because you are so used to doing so, but you have to learn how to stop doing that.
It may take a long time for you to be ‘friends’ — whatever that means. It may never happen.
There will be a time when your kids will wonder how the two of you were ever together in the first place. They may never even remember a time when you were together.
You remember what it was like to fall in love with the man you married and you truly wonder how in the world did it all fall apart.
The above makes you terrified to ever get married again.
We would love for you to add to this list in the comment section.
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