Divorce turns your kids’ world upside down—new routines, two homes, and feelings they can’t quite name. As a parent, you might try to smooth it over with extra hugs or packed schedules, but that’s not enough. At Rebuilders International, we’ve spent over 40 years helping families find their footing with our proven approach, backed by the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (FDAS). This isn’t about fixing your kids—it’s about guiding them to feel safe in a new normal. Here’s how to start today.

Why Kids Struggle with Change

Divorce doesn’t just shift your kids’ address—it shakes their sense of security. They pick up on your stress, miss the old rhythms, and worry they’re to blame. People might say, “They’re resilient,” but our method, tested by thousands, shows kids need active support to process change. The FDAS, with its .93 reliability, proves that helping them name and release emotions builds trust and stability. Let’s explore how you can make that happen.

5 Rebuilders Steps to Support Your Kids

These steps, drawn from our 10-week workshop, adapt our tools to help kids adjust, rooted in connection and emotional clarity:

1. Listen to Their Heart
   Kids often hide big feelings, thinking you can’t handle them. Our Empowerment Triangle—caring, vulnerability, assertiveness—teaches you to ask, “What’s one thing you’re feeling today?” A 10-year-old in our groups once said, “I’m scared you’ll leave too,” and it opened a door. Try it: listen without jumping to fix. It’s like our grief work, helping kids feel heard.

2. Teach “I Am Enough”
   Divorce can make kids feel they caused the split. Our core belief? They’re a “gem,” whole as they are. Try this: each night, say together, “I am enough.” A mom in our support group said her son’s frowns turned to grins over weeks. This practice, tied to our self-worth tools, helps kids feel steady, no matter the changes.

3. Check Your Own Progress
   Your emotional clarity helps your kids. Our free self-test takes 10 minutes and shows where you’re at—maybe stuck in grief or low on trust. A dad saw his scores and said, “I need to heal to help them.” Knowing this, like our RIFT framework’s thinking phase, lets you model strength for your kids.

4. Create One Shared Anchor
   Kids crave consistency. Pick one small ritual—like a bedtime story or a weekly pancake morning—and keep it steady, even across homes. Our program’s challenge behaviors show action builds security. A client said her daughter clung to their “joke of the day” like a lifeline. Choose one thing you can both count on—it’s a bridge to their new normal.

5. Join Our Community
   Parenting post-divorce feels lonely, but our online groups connect you with others tackling the same questions—like how to answer, “Why’d you split?” One parent learned to say, “We’re still your team, just apart,” easing her kid’s fears. Share tips, find support, and show your kids you’re not alone. Our tools make connection a family strength.

A New Normal They Can Trust

Helping kids adjust to a new normal after divorce is about building a world where they feel safe, not erasing what was. Our structured approach has guided thousands since 1974, with workshop completers since 2021 showing stronger family bonds via FDAS scores. You and your kids can find that stability too, one real moment at a time.

Need Support? We’re Here

This journey’s tough, but our programs—online, in-person, or self-paced—give you tools and a community to lean on. Visit our homepage or book a free clarity call. Want to start light? Join our free support group Tuesdays online.

You’re Their Guide—You’ve Got This

Your kids are watching you for cues. What’s one way you’ll help them feel safe today? Drop it below—we’re here for you!